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Posted: February 24, 2015, 12:00am by Ken Canion Print Email
Who You Are Is More Important Than What You Do!

People all over the world are trying to find out what makes them happy. Many use their jobs and income to acquire materialistic items, but they aren't happy. These people have done all they can to give themselves what they thought would bring them happiness. But, it doesn't. What you are is more important that what you do or have.

Success is defined by many different things in the world today and many people are off the mark. Some people believe that success is defined by how much money you have in your bank account. Others believe that if you drive the right cars and live in the right house, you have achieved success. The definition of success for many seems to lie in material and financial accomplishments.

Some of the happiest people in the world work for minimum wage or they are struggling to make ends meet every month. Yet these people have smiles on their faces and joy in their hearts. Why? Because they are happy with who they are. They don't worry about what other people think about their jobs, clothes, friends or other material things people obsess about. They know that who they are is more important than what they do or have.

Finding happiness really comes down to having a healthy self-image. People have all kinds of barricades that prevent them from finding true self-acceptance and happiness. There are many things that keep people from having a healthy self-image, but the main ones includ e anxiety at the thought of change, feelings that they don't deserve more than what they feel, guilt, inadequacy and a myriad of fears. Fear is a powerful emotion. Fear keeps people in their own emotional prisons for years without them even realizing that they have given up all of their control to their fears. Fear comes in all shapes and forms. Most people who have trouble with a healthy self-image find that fear about what other people think or how they are perceived is what overwhelms their thoughts. Fear is only an emotion. Fear does not define your self-worth. Guilt is another powerful emotion that drags a person far away from the possibility of happiness and a healthy self-image. Many times people's thoughts are overwhelmed by thinking about how they aren't spending enough time with the family, how they haven't lived up to others expectations or how they feel they have treated others to get to where they are. Guilt is really an emotion that doesn't do much good past helping people recognize their own accountability. Guilt might actually be an indicator that some of those fearful changes might be necessary in order to find some healthy self-worth.

It is amazing how people feel that they have a good idea of what they do and don't deserve. Where is this chart that indicates who deserves what according to various scales? There is no such scale and there shouldn't be. People deserve everything that they work for and earn, no matter what they do for a living. Who a person is far more important that their job or how much money they make. No one is in a position to place a value on deserving.

Finally, change is the hardest thing for people who are looking to find more value in their self-worth have to face. People don't like change and they fear it. They fear that changing the way things are may risk friendships and other relationships. If past attempts at changes had disastrous results, this can make change almost impossible for some people.

The only thing a person needs to change in order to become happy and accepting of who they are is to make adjustments in thinking. Taking all of these negative thoughts and turning them into positive affirmations can go a long way in taking the fear out of change and even making it enjoyable.

Begin hanging around people who you want to think like. These people will help you adjust your thought process. Someone once said," You can tell how successful a person will be by their 5 closest friends". Are your friends helping you bring out the most in you? Who you are is far more important than what you do. Money doesn't make most people happy, but self-acceptance does. Adjust the thought processes that prevent you from accepting yourself.